The L Stop announced the 10 Chicago lesbians to look out for in 2012, and guess who made the list? That’s right, this blogger. According to the list, these people are movers and shakers in the queer social scene, artists and activists, business women and beyond. It’s quite an impressive list to be on. But it’s weird.
It’s not that I’m not a lesbian. I mean, I’m sorta lesbian adjacent. I may not live on the same block, but I’m in the neighborhood.
It’s all really confusing for me. I’m attracted to all sorts of people, many of whom are women. But there isn’t one label that really encompasses me, and I don’t have a strong allegiance to any identity. Our language is far from perfect. My bestie and I have been making up different identities for ourselves since we met because there aren’t many boxes we fit into or that we feel welcome in (this is probably why we’re best friends).
Because I am a femme cisgender woman, I go through the world being read as a multitude of sexual identities based upon my appearance, my partner or whomever I happened to be hanging out with at the time. People will think what they want to think, and constantly explaining myself to everyone is exhausting and a burden I don’t want to and can’t always articulate. Really, as long as I can get people to not call me straight, I’m fine.
But blurring the boundaries of our community can be a very beautiful thing. So, while it’s a little weird, I’m grateful to be recognized alongside other people who are doing amazing things, especially when I’ve only been in Chicago for six months.
Read the write-up on me below, or see the full list of winners here.Follow @QueerKnowledge